.... and so do customs.
I was reminded, this morning, of a matter I've been meaning to post about.
The custom of holding hands, and raising hands, during the Our Father, seems to be very common at Masses in the area. This custom is permitted, but not mandated. Some people think it's a wonderful idea. However, a growing number find it childish, old-fashioned, and innapropriate. I think this needs to be remembered. If someone you don't know is sitting next to you, by all means offer, but never insist. Just because it seemed like a cool idea, way back in 1980, doesn't mean everyone likes it today.
I'm fortunate in this respect. After a time of kneeling, I have to grasp my stick in one hand, and the pew in the other. That saves me from the choice of either doing something I consider offensive, or being even more rude than my neighbor and telling them they're not being as friendly as they imagine.